When it comes to intimacy, many couples assume that things should feel natural or just “fall into place.”

But for a lot of people, especially those navigating past experiences, stress, or changes in their relationship, intimacy can start to feel uncertain, pressured, or disconnected.

If that’s the case, it can be helpful to come back to a simple foundation. I often talk with clients about what I call the three C’s of intimacy: communication, consideration, and consent.

These are not just about physical safety. They are essential for building emotional safety, trust, and connection in the bedroom.